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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You really need to work with a therapist on how to disengage from all this. The fact that you think you could have done something to make this trip awesome is another reflection of magical thinking combined with some real issues of thinking you have responsibilities for things way beyond your control.

One of my mantras is “you can’t argue with crazy” — I simply don’t bother and it makes my life much, much easier.

You don’t need to spend any more time or effort on a completely toxic sibling.[/quote]

Op here. Thank you. I think you’re right. I might share your comment with my therapist because it is so articulate. I noticed during their visit that the more miserable they were, the more anxious I felt and the more I felt responsible, like the whole debacle was my fault.  I did 4 loads of their laundry (including hang drying most items per my sister’s instructions), I bought them a crock pot (my sister said she needed it to make special foods for her 2 yo, and she doesn’t use Instapots which is what we have), I bought 2 humidifiers for their bedroom to try to see if it could help the kids feel better with their coughs, etc.

My sister had also given me lists with very specific food items for me to buy before they came (including a $40 bottle of wine and a $40 bottle of scotch-DH and I are teetotalers so I bought them but we won’t finish the scotch off). They ended up not eating/drinking 2/3 of the things she asked for. And she never offered to pay me for the items either....[/quote]

Oh wow, OP. I’m happy they finally left and happy that you will discuss with your therapist. Hope the rest of your week is much better![/quote]

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