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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My experience is that parents are happy to pay lip service to tolerance of gays, up until the point that their own children might actually turn out to be something other than cisgender---at that point their child must have been corrupted or converted.

Your own words betray this: you think that discussions of gender fluidity somehow celebrate victimhood and weakness and yet also gives children power over teachers and others. Letting young people try to figure out who they are is literally the definition of resilience and self-determination.[/quote]

My child is gay, and I love her and accept her.  I don't think anyone "corrupted or converted" her.  I have gay family members and know that sexual orientation is biological.  When she came out to me, I was not at all surprised.

I am trying to figure out gender identity, though.  I understand gender dysphoria and feeling like you were born in the wrong body, but the rest of the gender spectrum is new to me (and to many of us).  I don't think there is harm in asking questions.  Nor do I think it is harmful to try to figure out whether a child is really gender fluid or just feeling uncomfortable in her body because of puberty.  Contrary to what a PP said, I do think there is a big difference between reacting to societal expectations for girls by becoming a feminist versus by declaring that you are not a girl. [/quote]

I am failing to see the harm either way (barring hormonal therapy, etc). What is the difference between a teenager saying "I am nonbinary and will have sex with both men and women" and a teenager saying "I am a vegan and will never eat meat again"? Teenagers are passionate and dramatic and trying out all kinds of identities and values; yes, even if they don't really believe it.

I'd be more concerned if my teen got some stupid tattoo, which really is an experiment that changes you for life. But that seems to be perfectly cool for many parents.[/quote]

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