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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see it from a different perspective.  It should be about the Coach and the Player only.  Communication should only happen between Coach and Player only.

- Parents should have no involvement in team management and should only be able to meet with the Coach with the Player and Staffer if a meeting is needed.  
- It's up to your DC to speak up if they aren't getting playing time, ask what skills they should be working on outside of practice, etc.  If parents need to say something to the coach it will have to come from player or setup meeting.
- Parents should not be recommending guest players to a Coach - again parents should have no involvement in the team decisions or who the coach should look at.  Parents should only be driving the kid to practice/games and cheering them on the sidelines.
- I don't think a coach needs to justify decisions being made. He is the coach and will do what's needed (within reason) to get the W.

Parents are just in the way of the kid's development and progress in the sport if they have involvement.  When your kid goes off to play in college/pro's are mommy and daddy going to be there to fight for playing time or making decisions for them?  Might as well let them make the mistakes now so they can learn from them and not from you telling them what to do. If your kid wants to play at the next level they will work hard and do what they need to do to get there.  
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This is all wrong. These are children, not fully mature and brain developed adults. Just like a parent / teacher conference is held for school, a parent / coach conference should be held for paid soccer.  The focus should be on the individual child and not the team's performance or other players.  Also, as the kid hits freshman year (U15, i.e. 14 year olds) then the Coach/Parent one on one meetings can stop, but the coach should have one parent - coach (no players) meeting per season so that the adults can talk freely.  Like back-to-school night.  This is not overburdensome, at all.  I know.  I've coached, I've played, I've managed.  This is easy to do.  Its just that many prima donna coaches are incapable of dealing with adults in a professional manner, but are fine dealing with little children who are scared of them.  Maybe they could learn a thing or two from public school teachers.

As far as youth coaching being all about the "W", nothing could be further from the truth.  Youth coaching is about teaching and developing both individually and as a team.  Outside of putting kids in optimal positions and deciding on playing time, the players determine the W.  This is not college or the pros.  Nothing is on the line here other than kids learning.  Just as a teacher doesn't give kids an answer on a test, a coach shouldn't joystick players in a game.  As far as those that will say ... but, but, if my kids team doesn't win then they won't be in front of college coaches and he/she wont get a full ride ... that again is foolishness.  It is up to your kid to stand out in a game or ID camp, etc.  The coach (and/or club TD) only role there is to provide connections and recommendations to potential coaches, if they state they offer that service for the money. If the coach is any good at teaching, the team will get enough W's along the way.  If not, they either won't win or they will play the recruiting kids from other teams game to mask their incompetence.
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Have fun raising a snowflake.[/quote]

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