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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dressed my first child like a little British doll- all mini boden and smocked bishop dresses. I never let her pick her clothes out for school and never asked her opinion when I ordered clothes. Then one day, we were chatting with another mother at the park and the mother made a passing comment along the lines of “you know how good you feel when you love how you look? It’s not about what you are wearing but all about how you feel.” I don’t know why but that comment made me really lighten up. I started letting my daughter pick her clothes and outfits, and she has a wonderful, unique style that is so fascinating to me! Turns out, 3 years later, her younger brother has emerged as more of a gender nonconforming dresser. He has very strong opinions about what he wants to wear and I feel like I have done a great job supporting him largely in part because I lightened up with my eldest! I care way more about my children’s mental health and self esteem than I do about them wearing a My Little Pony sweatshirt in a school photo. So my advice is to let that go. [b]Let your child wear what FEELS good.[/b] [/quote] My children have NEVER asked for a character shirt. They see them at Target all the time (or used to back when we browsed Target every weekend) and never once wanted one. So don't assume that kids that don't wear character shirts are somehow unhappy or wearing clothes that don't FEEL good to them. Honestly, the judgment of the people who think kids must wear character shirts or they will hate their parents and end up in therapy is just as bad as the judgment of people who think that kids who wear character shirts must be trashy.[/quote] Nice straw man you made there. No one said that kids HAVE to wear character shirts to be happy. No one assumes that if they see a kid in a plain red shirt, that the kids is unhappy or doesn't feel good. No one says that they only dress their kids in character tees. They said that PARENTS who think that a t-shirt with Mickey Mouse on it is trashy, and that they are morally superior because they only dress their kids in Tea Collection and Hanna Andersson, and who are overly controlling about their children's clothing, are wrong, and that the control-freakiness and judgmentalism they exhibit are going to negatively affect their kids and their relationship with their kids. [/quote]
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