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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As I've said before, there is no better place I've found on the internet to convince me to never get married again. I'll never have a GF [b]that gets away with denying me sex, no matter her perceived good reasons.[/b] [/quote]

You think you are entitled to sex. That is very rapey.[/quote]

I think I'm entitled to enjoy a fulfilling relationship with a woman that includes sex.  If sex isn't at least nearly important to her as it is to me, that will be a problem and she is free to find another man who is a better match.  There is nothing rapey about wanting, or even [b]expecting frequent sex [/b]in a relationship.  [b]There is force involved.[/b] [/quote]

Nice Fruedian typo.
Listen. You aren't entitled to any flipping thing to do with women. You aren't entitled to a relationship just for being alive. You aren't entitled to sex and you shouldn't expect sex.[/quote]

And FYI coersing someone into sex is assault. It doesn't have to involve force https://www.healthline.com/health/sexual-coercion[/quote]

When did I say anything about coercing a woman into sex?  This has gone from rape, to slavery, to coercion and all I mentioned was my desire to have a partner who enjoys sex as much as I do.  Specifically, a GF, not a wife. If that looks rapey to you, or like coercion, then something is wrong with you, not me.[/quote]

You didn't say you wanted to find a partner who enjoys sex. You used the words "entitled to: and "expect" in regards to sex. Those words are disturbing and imply that you have rights over another person's body. You didn't say "I'm very sex-postitve and put a lot of effort into pleasing my partner so I hope we will have a good sexual relationship."
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I think you are nitpicking with this guy who admittedly isn't using progressive language. I think the word entitled is fine, just as I would tell my children they are entitled to be in a relationship with love and respect even though those things have to be given to them by a partner. All that means is you know not to say in a relationship where there is no love, respect, and for most people that includes a healthy sex life.

Of course you can't force your partner to give you love, respect or sex, or really anything. I didn't get that he was implying that. I think it's strange how many people don't expect that marriage will come with sex, but perhaps that's the new progressive mindset that marriage isn't a sexual relationship. I admit I am Gen X and we viewed marriage and sex as something you assumed.[/quote]

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