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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]William and Mary for my daughter, that sample dorm room they show you on the tour.... ugh not homey at all.  Was a shame because if they hadn't shown the dorm room it would have climbed to do the top of the list. Loved the campus and the vibe though my daughter noticed not alot of cute boys lol.

Also Georgetown, [b]not that we were going to get in[/b], but we went a few times just to explore and the last time we were there almost stepped on a dead rat in the middle of the walkway. That was enough to scare my son away once he read that rats and roaches are a big problem there. I'm sure that happens everywhere but it was a turnoff lol[/quote]

So both you and your son applied?  If you both got in, was the plan to be roommates?[/quote]

Why are you so offended by that that you need to point it out on every thread? I get it... Your kid does everything on their own and is paying on their own too....or you are paying but it's still only their experience alone...or it's your experience to an extent too, but only you know the acceptable way to talk about it.... Just stop. Parents using those words does not mean their children aren't highly independent and capable. You protest to the point it makes me think you have some regrets about your hands off strategy....[/quote]

Ok, I'll tell you how it worked for us.  Our kids were practical.  Each knew that wherever he or she ended up would be fine, and that if not they'd just transfer or whatever.  They were looking for a college, not a spouse.  So, each came up with short (four or five) and reasonable lists of where they wanted to apply, knowing in advance what we were willing to pay for (no second tier overpriced private liberal arts schools, for example).  Once they made their lists, we suggested a couple additions here and there of similar schools.  If the kid said they weren't interested, we were fine with that (one UVA applicant wouldn't even consider WM, for example, and another thought in the reverse).  Only one of our kids had any serious interest in extensive college touring before applying, so we took that kid and a couple friends interested in the same/similar schools on a road trip, dropped them off on the campuses, and went our own way and didn't take the tours ourselves.  Then, when each kid chose where to apply, they did the applications completely by themselves -- including essays, with zero input from us.  Then, once accepted, they made the decision where to go themselves.  So, in a very real sense, "we" didn't apply and "we" certainly didn't get in or not get in.  "We" offered a few suggestions, to be sure, and "we" drove them around when requested, and "we" paid the tuition.  I really think this is how it's supposed to work, sorry.  [/quote]

TL; DR[/quote]

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