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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read all the comments, but this is a weird thing to want to control, OP.  Just let it go.  Your kid is old enough to make their own food when they get home if they want it.  Stop trying to orchestrate their time together or control your ex's actions.[/quote]

Agree.  This shouldn't be a big deal at all.  It sounds like your main issue is having to think about making your child a sandwich when he comes home cuts into your "free" time.  Giving one child something to eat should not take up any mental energy from you.  You sound pretty selfish and bitter.[/quote]

No, mom should tell kid to eat at Dad's or no meal at home.  Simple.  [/quote]

No, this is using child as a weapon and playing games with ex.  Child gets to pick when he eats.  This is so beyond stupid and a non-issue that bitter divorced parents like to fight over.  [/quote]
Different poster - I don’t agree with putting kids in the middle...but I also don’t agree kids get to pick...when they eat within reason. I think not eating the Bento box mom packed is outside of reasonableness. I think not finding something to eat at the takeout place dad suggested is outside of reasonableness. I think not picking something mom suggests to eat is outside of reasonableness. I think offering food bw 7-8 is outside reasonableness. (Eating dinner bw 7-8 is reasonable and skipping lunch is also within the realm of reasonableness).  Expecting a big, elaborate dinner at 9:30 isn’t reasonable, for example. [/quote]

A 10 Yr old doesn’t need to take a bento box to dad’s house.  He either eats whatever is at dad’s house or he can help himself to what  is in the frig when he comes home.  Mom isn’t expected to cook a big elaborate meal and she knows that.  She is making this an issue bc that what too many divorced parents do.  They like to pick fights over petty things and spend a lot of money in court.  Go for it OP.  Get a court order [/quote]

OMG this is ridiculous PP. Are you projecting??? [/quote]

+1 I know! Some of these PPs sound like they are really angry people. OP asked a normal question in a very thoughtful and non combative way. She was not casting blame on anyone and went out of her way to make it clear her child's father was providing food but wanted help figuring out what was going on. 
I don't think it's a tragedy if a 10 year old doesn't eat for a day but if you can break him of that habit you should try and if  you should try to figure out if there's a larger problem going on . It's called good parenting which OP is practicing. [/quote]

But she isn't really concerned her child isn't eating, she is mad that her "free time" without him is not weighed down with the thought of him wanting something to eat when he comes home.  Which is entirely dumb.  He can get himself something.  [/quote]

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