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The point is for many of us it doesn't cost anything additional to have kids living in our home.  You don't need a larger residence.  We have a 1000 square foot house and do just fine in it.  You want a larger house.  There is want vs. need.  If you as Mom choose to have a nicer lifestyle than you can afford, you shouldn't expect Dad to pay for it.  I choose to spend my money on my child so they have a nicer lifestyle than I do.  Its all about priorities.  You may need to live in a 3000 square foot house paid for by your ex but reality is 1000 is just fine.[/quote]

And for many of you, it does!

Want and need is meaningless.

Child support is pegged to income, not to some mythical "want vs. need".   It's not about how much a child need. It's about the fact that the state has decreed that your child is entitled to a certain percentage of your income, whatever that income is.  If a non-custodial parent makes a million dollars, the child will get a percentage of that.  If that parent makes 80K, the child will get a percentage of that.  These two children eat the same # of calories a day and can be fed for the same amount, yet their child support numbers will be vastly different.  Want and need does not come into it.  
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Point is that its how you choose to spend your money.  You get what you get and as the custodial parent you also need to contribute to your child's care.  You keep talking about the responsibility of the NCP but the CP has equal if not more responsibility to provide for their needs.  If you shop at Whole Foods and blow $500 a week, you cannot expect Dad to pay for it when you can go to Aldi's for 1/3 that.  You also cannot expect Dad to pay for your housing and other expenses and act like its income when its not.  There is want and need.  Your child has basic needs.  Anything over that is a want.  What ever you get you either make it work or you pay the difference (which it doesn't sound like you are willing).[/quote]

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