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OP, your problem is not that your wife wants you to rescue her. Your problem is that you want your wife to rescue you AND be happy about it.

She’s rescuing you, but she’s not happy about it.

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OP doesn't want to be rescued!! he's fine with their new existence of living in a condo, and work life balance.  He worked big law when his wife was in government, and presumably took care of a lot of student loans during that time, and now the tables have turned and his wife is the one contributing more (though making $160k, OP is presumably contributing too). During and before law school, they both were equally complicit in living beyond their means and racking up debt.  In the 10 (?) years since they graduated from law school, they've both contributing pretty darn equally to the paying down of their debt and household expenses.  Op's wife however, wants to work less or not at all, so that he can work more...?

What the hell is wrong with you people that you're looking for something to criticize OP for?  [/quote]

OP never said his wife went straight to gov out of law school? [/quote]

Yes, he did. He said in the very first paragraph of his very first post that she went to the federal government. She didn't like that either because she didn't like her boss and non-flexibility.  I think (but can't remember where he posted it, so admittedly could be wrong on this item) that he said her government salary wasn't great - low $100s.  Or maybe he said that about her potential salary if she went back to government?

OP and his wife have contributed VERY equally to the finances of their household since law school.  [/quote]

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