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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You all are headed for some really bumpy times ahead in your marriage if you can’t manage a 10 week old with one parent on leave and the other working a normal (for DC )work week. Sleep when the baby sleeps and do your chores like loading a dishwasher whenever. This is so not worth arguing about with a newborn baby in the house. I kinda hate to say but mothering is not entirely fair or equitable. You as the mother will be tasked with the lion’s share of the work regarding the children and home.[/quote]

It’s hard because the mom is making two choices that make her life a lot harder:

1.  Pumping 
2.  Baby napping on her.

It’s like the moms who have kids who don’t sleep and complain about it.  No, a one year old can’t keep you from sleeping.  Create a safe sleep environment and put on a sound machine. If you’re up hours every night for a young child, that’s your decision but it isn’t necessary!  
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1. The baby isn't  one.

2. Thank you're lucky stars you had easy one year olds.[/quote]

The PP has a point though.  Mom doesn't need to pump every 3 hrs around the clock.  So what is DH wants her to.  She doesn't have to and she can stop at any time or cut out any session she sees fit.  I find it REALLY hard to believe her DH cares this much about her pumping and breastmilk.  It is likely he wants the baby to get breastmilk because he read somewhere it is best and OP is home with baby.  [b]But I seriously doubt he will blow a gasket if she pumps 3 times per day and supplements the rest.  He won't care OP.[/b]  You are doing this to yourself.  All things considered, you still have it pretty easy.  Come back when you have baby #2 with colic and a toddler. [/quote]

I don’t know. From her posts, I get the sense he’s a bully and she avoids his fits out of necessity. OP, what would he honestly do if you told him you’re quitting pumping? I still think you should do whatever you want, but I can understand it’s hard to make a choice that results in him blowing up.[/quote]

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