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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Psychoanalyze me if you must, but I did want to find a name where my kid wouldn’t have to go by a last name her whole school career or be in a situation where an entire bleacher section groaned when yet another same name cheerleader was announced.  My parents didn’t have the popularity lists/websites for research like I did.

Do I get that there aren’t as many of the same name these days?  Yes.  That said, as evidenced by this board, naming trends tend to run in peer groups/SES groups.  I know so many people with Sophias, Isabelles and Avas.  Maybe not all in the same class, but it is bound to happen in some Upper Middle Class school or class.

My girls have normal names.  I wasn’t trying to find some crazy unique moniker.  Just a name that wasn’t in heavy usage right now.  As I said above, it was a fun exercise to find names that worked within my criteria.

We all have our own experiences to work with-sounds like you came to a solution based on yours, yet are judging others for doing the same.[/quote]

I'm not judging anyone -- I'm actually responding specifically to the judgment and pressure heaped upon parents to choose an "original", "not overly popular" name for their child, and the way people openly roll their eyes and express annoyance when a child has a name that is more common. The whole existence of this thread -- to find names that are not even in the top 1000 name that no one else will have -- is a response to that pressure. And while you didn't list my child's name as one of the "super popular" names, I actually think tossing off "Sophias, Isabelles and Avas" is super judgmental! People who gave their DDs those names did so because they loved the names, they thought they were pretty, they felt that it would suit a child growing up in the world they are hoping to create for her. They aren't trying to be unoriginal or basic or strivers or whatever.

If you want to give your child an original name because that's what you want for your kid, great. What I can't deal with is this idea that because your child's name is very uncommon, and my child's name is more common, that somehow that means I failed at naming my kid, or that your kid will magically be more interesting, original, or whatever. I think it's a weird part of parenting culture, especially in DC or among UMC people, where naming kids has become super competitive and judgment-laden. People are sensitive about their children, for good reason, and it's gross how often people on these boards act like just because a child as a more common name, it reflects ANYTHING about the child or his/her parents other than that they liked a name that many other people also like.[/quote]

Whoo boy - talk about issues[/quote]

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