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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something smells worse than 3-day old fish here. If your husbands job is all that secret how is he even allowed to work from home?[/quote]

OP here. It’s not super top secret. He’s not CIA or anything, but he doesn’t want a nanny in our home. He used to work in the field and this is his first desk job. He would be in the office ( sometimes goes in) if it weren’t for the pandemic. [b]Part of it is he just doesn’t want someone in our house.[/b] [/quote]

It's not part of it, it's all of it. He's being unreasonable and throwing out excuse after excuse to wear you down to his goal of getting you to quit your job. He sounds like he's a little bit of a dick. Don't feel too bad. I am married to the same type of guy.

My advice - avoid the subject as much as possible and move forward with your plan. Develop talking points. I had to do this recently b/c mine was dying to take a job across the country and wants me to move - and mine was: "We need my full-time salary. There is no way around that. And the only way we do that with me moving is for me to jump through a lot of hoops to try to make it happen. If I can't make it happen, you will be on your own for the next couple of years." And thus far he is on his own for the next couple of years.

This is really the first time I have just refused to go along with one of his plans "for our family." I expect there will be some anger when he really realizes that the kids and I aren't tagging along, but  them's the breaks.[/quote]

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