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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even if a crazy striver Tiger Mom shoehorns their kid in, if they don't have the internal drive the experience is squandered. You can't control your kid at college, your future Goldman banker or surgeon will do their own thing and there's nothing you can do about it. So you'll brag they got in, but four years later when they land some average career or can only get into a mediocre law school, you'll realize it was all pretty pointless. Meanwhile your Facebook timeline will be full of normal state university kids they went to high school with going to medical school and making big bucks in random paths from pharmaceutical sales to software engineering.[/quote]

It would seem that you're projecting your own sad mediocrity on others.  [/quote]

Sweetie, two of our children landed at "elite" schools and a third at a top public university. In the last decade I've seen plenty of average careers with an elite college bachelor's to know it's not a lottery ticket - not even close. Once kids head off to college, everyone is onto what's next - prestige internships, medical school, job offers, elite law school, who they're dating, which premier city after college.

Elite college or not, the internally motivated, impressive, and charismatic cream always ends up on top. It's actually embarrassing when ruthless striver moms boast about their teen shoehorned into a prestige college, yet four or five years later neurotic Tiger Mom has nothing more to brag about because the now 22 or 23 year old didn't set the world on fire, s/he's just working a normal 9-5 gig like every other state schooler. When the kids are in their 20s you can't hang your hat on where they got into undergrad - everyone's moved onto what they're up to now.

And the kid's college and post college social circle and dating pool isn't powerful pool of multi-millionaires, it's just normal middle class peers because if they weren't mixing with them prior to college, they rarely penetrate those orbits at and especially after college.[/quote]

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