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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen so many examples of men or women successfully divorcing over an affair but DCUM for whatever reason keeps insisting that it never happens, and if it does, it is going to be a crap show, etc.  The only difference that I've seen is again the lack of money, the lack of social status, the lack of career on both sides, the lack of character to make a decision and co-dependent relationships.  If you are attached to this person financially, emotionally and do not have means to move on, or willpower to change, or your mind/upbringing tells you that's the only choice to hold on onto a marriage no matter what then okay but why try to delude yourself into thinking that it's what happens to everyone?[/quote]

It never is good for the children. Never. Cheaters tell themselves otherwise because to believe they are responsible for that is too much.  The same delusion they used to justify their affair carries over to the divorce. [/quote]

Sure anyone can have a amicable divorce, that's to be hoped for. Of course it only takes one to keep the fight going.

The biggest problem is the kids will find out about the cheating, there's no way not to. I've seen where they don't want to see the other parent, or they have a strained relationship later on.
It depends. [/quote]
If divorcing parents are telling their kids about affairs, be certain to provide equal details on the state of marital sex life prior to the affair. Assuming your kids are not dumb, they will appreciate the affair was essential to keeping their parent's sexless marriage together. And if they judge anybody, they will wonder why the sexless parent suddenly is making sex a dealbreaker issue (yet how can sex be important if they aren't even having any?)[/quote]

Sure. I screwed your dad 3-4 times per week the entire marriage. I indulged in 3-somes with him early in the marriage and he got blown by the females.

He then decided to lie to you and me, miss driving you to practice and spend a weekend away from us and some of your days off from school with an old whore[/quote]

Very few marriages are having sex 3-4 times per week. Of those, an infinitesimally small percentage does the man have an affair.
Thanks for covering the fractions-of-percentile affair scenario with your helpful post.[/quote]

Nope.  It’s way more common than you think and most of these cheaters have sex addiction issues and/or extremely high libidos.  Sexless marriage guy just assumes every situation is the same as his.  He is also very angry at his own wife.  It comes out in his posts.[/quote]

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