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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP: but the survey talk got me thinking, and I found this great Pew report on the rise of the SAHM
https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/04/08/after-decades-of-decline-a-rise-in-stay-at-home-mothers/

This graph in particular spoke to me on the childcare/SAHM debate above:
https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/04/08/after-decades-of-decline-a-rise-in-stay-at-home-mothers/sdt-2014-04_moms-at-home-3-01/

It finds that WOHM ends up providing only 7 hrs less per week in childcare than the SAHM.  They also provide slightly less housework (8hr less) but have less leisure (9hr less) and less sleep (5hr less).  One could argue, lets assume the the average WOHM outsources 40hr/week in childcare (daycare, nanny, school, etc) plus providing their 11hr/week in childcare - this means there is 51hr/week in childcare that needs to be covered ... now, the SAHM covers 18hr/week in childcare.  And 51hr - 18hr = 33hr.  This is most likely driven by children in school, but that is childcare.  SAHM absolutely receive tens of hours a week in childcare on average.

That isn't for debate.

Now back to preferences, if you are able to afford to live a lifestyle you are comfortable with on one income, i can 100% see how a person can prefer to be a SAHM (9hr more leisure, more time with kids, house chores, and sleep!) but that isn't everyone's preference, or what works for their family.

But let's not pretend SAHM dont outsource childcare too.  Swapped playdates, school, family watching the child on the weekend.  THAT.IS.HELP.WITH.CHILDCARE.[/quote]

Sorry, but this simply makes no sense. I understand it's a pew survey and they are very reputable, but this data makes no sense to me. I am wondering how they are defining "working mother"? But if one woman has a 2 yo and works a full-time job and another woman has a 2 yo and stays home (which is really what most of us are talking about when we say SAHM vs WOHM), [b]then the SAHM is doing at least 40 more hours per week of childcare than the working mom[/b].[/quote]

but that is the point.  This report shows that they AREN'T doing 40hr more per week of childcare than a WAHM, they are doing 7 hr more on average.  On average, WAHM are doing *slightly less* childcare, but are also losing out on sleep and leisure time as compared to a SAHM.

But again, this is an average, so yes there are example of extremes getting averaged out.  In your example, having a 2 year old (ie not in school) there is probably a greater divide in SAHM vs WAHM childcare, but this is being averaged with SAHM of 6 year olds who are in school (ie, outsourced childcare) and WAHM of 6 year olds who are also in school, now that SAHM has a lot more time for house chores, leisure and sleep as compared to the WAHM.
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