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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand staying at home when the kids are still little and don't go to school. But once they are elementary school age, what do you do all day? [/quote]

I am not a SAHM, but I always think this question is so bizarre.

Do you ask people without children what they do all day after they get off work?  What do childfree people do from 5pm-11pm?  That's six hours a day.  Then they have entire days, sometimes multiple days in a row with no work at all.  Managing their household can't take up all of their time.  They aren't managing, cooking for, or cleaning up after anyone other than themselves.  So what do they even do with their time?

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You are comparing women sitting at home all day while kids are in school...to, you know, people that worked 8+ hours and then have to go to the gym, do their laundry and cook dinner...and the kids’ dinner and homework.  They don’t have the luxury of working out during the day.

I WAH so I at least I make $200k and I’m still home when kids get off the bus.  I manage to do everything a SAHM does.[/quote]

News flash - some people don't work, and that includes SAHMs whose kids are in school whose spouses provide the income solo.  People with trust funds, retirees and people on long term disability etc don't work.  It is what it is, but why worry about what they do all day?[/quote]

I could never relate to someone who chooses not to contribute to society in some way (be it volunteer work, paid work, caring for their young children). I might also have a hard time respecting them. Just my world view on what it means to be an adult.[/quote]

Define contributing?  So, basically they don't live their life how you see it, you reject them.  I feel bad for your kids.  My parents were like that.  I have no relationship with them now.  They are very unhappy people and I am happy.  I love the freedom of not working.  When a family member was ill, I could step in for a year without notice and care for them until I was physically unable and then could be very active in their care in the nursing home.  As teens, your kids need you more, not less.  You cannot get that time back with them.  You are self absorbed not to realize how much older kids need their parents, both parents.  Being at home gives my husband the freedom to have that time with our family.[/quote]

Oh give me a f@cking break.  I WAH full-time for the Feds, I see my teens as much as you see yours.  I’m home all day.

My husband also doesn’t make me work or not work.  He makes 4-times my salary so it’s not necessary, but I love what I do and I also like the retirement/health benefits and extra security.

I get sick of the martyrs acting like their teens can’t wipe their own @sses without helicopter mom helping.[/quote]

Being involved is not helicoptering and your attitude justifies to you why you aren't involved.  If you want to work, work, but you cannot claim you see yours as much as I do if you are working full time even from home but keep telling yourself that.[/quote]

Okay, Lazy Bones.  I only work during school hours.

Are you riding the high school bus and sitting in class with them?[/quote]

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