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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I definitely feel strongly about giving my children the best possible start in life.  DH and I give up a great deal for that[/quote]

Fascinating that when asked to prioritize parenting values someone actually spells this out. I actually believe the exact opposite. I think it’s immoral to put all your efforts into giving your child(ren) advantages above as many of their peers as possible. I think it’s the root of so much evil as it perpetuates a society where so many people suffer and are then BLAMED for their own suffering. It’s beyond gross to me that this is considered a value.

LOVING my children and ensuring they feel as though [b]they are the most loved creatures on the planet[/b] is of upmost importance to me but beyond that I simply want to make sure they feel secure that we will meet their most basic needs, establish broadly healthy foundations and create joy in their childhood. I think the mentality of hiring teachers from birth ( :roll: ) and providing every advantage money can buy is toxic. [/quote]

[b]I find this to be very odd, almost hypocritical. I want my kids to know that my husband and I love them no matter what, but they are NOT the most-loved creatures on the planet because they aren't that important in the grand scheme of things. Even in our world, they don't rule our lives. We spend time away from them, our needs also matter, etc. I find it odd that you think giving your children advantages is immoral, but teaching them that they're the most-loved creatures on the planet is not.[/b][/quote]

I was poorly trying to set up a dichotomy between the PP wanting to maximize their children’s privileges and my belief that the only thing I want to give my children in abundance is love. I didn’t mean that I want my children to believe they are the most [i]deserving[/i] of love, just that when we are launching them into the world they feel that it’s with the security of our deep, unconditional love instead of the advantages of the most educated nannies or living in the best neighborhood or attending the most elite schools etc. [/quote]

There is no “instead of”, PP.  You can fill your child with a deep sense of security of your deep unconditional love while providing them with educated nannies, a safe neighborhood and top schools.

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DP, yes, you can.  That would still lead to entitled kids.  The world has plenty of entitled kids.  Some of us want to see more grateful kids who try to make the world a better place for others as well as themselves.[/quote]

DP. "Educated nannies, a safe neighborhood and top schools" don't necessarily make kids entitled or ungrateful. [/quote]

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