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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's hoping girlfriend is seeing the true colors of this man she is with and leaves him. [/quote]

Im pretty quick to see misogyny in any corner (my husband gets tired of it), but i don't see misogyny in OP's posts.  In his first post, he had recently found out that his GF - whom he was close to proposing to -- slept with someone as as recently as 17% into the timeline of their entire relationship.  Seventeen percent!!! That's a huge amount of the time they've been together, and no wonder it can put his understanding of their relationship in a different light.

While Millennials have bizarrely been able to convince themselves that you have no obligation to the feelings of the person you're dating until you have an exclusivity conversation, the generations before them did not follow this protocol.  I'm cusp gen X-gen Y, and like another gen X poster, you would never have dated 2 people at once unless you were a jerk.  Even if millennials have normalized this crappy behavior, it's not unreasonable for someone to be hurt by it.  Much like ghosting friends has been normalized in the last 15 years, it doesn't mean that the victim isn't entitled to be hurt, or that the victim can't judge the ghoster.  By the same token, if OP thinks it reflects badly on his GF for her to have been dating multiple people before the exclusivity convo (like anyone over the age of 35 feels), then i'm not sure why this is misogyny.  Those are valid feelings, and feels like a violation of your trust or what *he* understood were the basic building blocks of their relationship.  [/quote]

Totally agree with this.  OP seems like a really decent guy and I hope it all works out for the best for him.  I do wonder if posters like you on the cusp of gen X or Y do see things a little differently.  Yes we dated but only one person at a time and you could pick the duds by the ones that multi dated at a time.  The decent guys dated one person at a time and were genuine.  This belief is hard to let go of.

I get that things are different now.  I get that males and females sleep around with different people whilst dating however I also think this can lead to hurt feelings if one person is more serious than the other earlier on.  I think it's wise he takes some more time before popping the question so it feels right for him.  [/quote]

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