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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]This. Knowing how to do the individual tasks is different from knowing how to manage all of the tasks for yourself while also working.

I would definitely never even date someone who could not manage a household on his own. It just leads to a marriage where he thinks his wife is his mommy and should cook and clean for him.[/quote]

That's the thing! It's great that you are giving him a leg up by providing him with a place to live.  It's all the other things that you provide that will stunt him.  He needs to learn to be an adult, and that involves more than just cutting a rent check.  He won't make a very good spouse or father if he never learns the basics of managing his needs and his home.  Give him the opportunity manage his responsibilities!  Being a man isn't just about what is in your bank account, but knowing how to take care of the mental and physical labor of a household.  Talk to any overwhelmed mom who has a husband who contributes little to the household besides a paycheck.  The relationship forum is filled with complaints from wives who handle the lion's share of home responsibilities.  What you are giving him is only part of what he needs to become a functional adult.[/quote]

Yes.  Dealing with roommates.  Dealing with landlords.  Making decisions and living with the consequences.  Not being able to fully focus on his career is the point! He needs to learn to excel at work while also handling the boring realities of life in a capable and efficient manner.  You cannot be his Mommy, secretary, concierge, cleaning lady, and chef forever.  Bright and successful women are not interested in catering to a husband the way you are catering to your son.  [/quote]

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