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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At what age/stage do you think it makes the most impact on your child's development to have you as a full-time caregiver? Let's say you could only do so for a couple of years, would it be when they are a baby? Toddler? Preschool age? [/quote]

My mother stayed home with me until kindergarten. My siblings were school age when I was born, so I had her to myself for 6 years. It was lovely and I remember the fun mom from that time -- doing art projects, going for walks and swims, etc . I could have that sweet version of my mom more during my middle school and high school years when life got tough and confusing and I had no one to talk to. Instead I got the cranky, stressed-out mom in the evenings and the rushed, "I can't be late to my meetings again because you overslept and aren't ready for school!" mom in the mornings. She's retired now and once again as sweet as pie.

I SAH full-time for the first 5 years for my son and now WFH. I hope that will continue until my son is done w/school, because I want to be present and available if he needs me.[/quote]

That sounds like your mom’s crappy job and/or her relationship with that job, not a general thing for working moms. I never think about work when not at work and my stress level is lower when I work because I like my colleagues/work environment. [/quote]

NP I enjoy my job too, but my stress level would definitely be lower if I didn’t have to work! All things equal, [b]less responsibility = less stress[/b]!

That being said, not working wouldn’t be the right answer for me since I like using my brain analytically, etc. But I definitely have more stress in my life because of it. [/quote]

I guess if you don't outsource anything now you wouldn't have any additional responsibility, but I know if I didn't work outside the house (or inside the house now, ha!), I wouldn't have a maid, gardener, etc. I would do those things myself because I was at home and also because we'd be down one salary. Obviously it varies from person to person, but I would think a lot of people actually have the same amount of stress, even though it's of a different kind, if they are at home with their kids. [/quote]

We have a 2x/month housecleaner and I would never stop that unless we were on the brink of poverty. We also have a FT nanny/housekeeper and I guess I would replace her if I were to SAH. But still, it’s a lot less stressful to worry about dishes and laundry than it is to worry about delivering on work commitments, office politics, etc.[/quote]

I used to have a 2x/week house cleaner. Still donating to her but she is not coming to clean for us.  Never had a nanny or housekeeper.  I made do with my cleaning lady doing  chores for me once a week - chopping vegetables, decluttering, organizing, cleaning fridge etc.  SAHM of many years.  Yes, dishes and laundry are nothing to worry about. [b]School, EC activities and other stuff is though something to worry about and plan - at least in our house.[/b]  I am sure delivering on work commitments, office politics etc is very hard though. 
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Exactly - that’s like your whole life. Imagine if you had to deal with job responsibilities on top of that. Your head would explode![/quote]

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