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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a knock on moms  that choose to stay home of their own volition.

I'm talking about guys who marry a woman with a career.  Guys that get with awoman knowing her career is important to her, that she spent years getting into her position, same as he did,  that just assume she'll stay home because he doesn't like  daycare or his mom stayed home, and his brother's wife stays home, or because he makes money?

Why is it overwhelmingly the woman who is expected to sacrifice her career ,even if it's not what she wants.

To be fair, I now one dad who altered his career to stay home when his kids were small instead of ecpexting his wife, too, but why is this so rare?[/quote]

OP, I am curious why you are asking this.  Is your DH pressuring you to stay home?[/quote]

Thankfully no. Unfortunately, there are several women close to me who feel pressured to stay home, even though that's never what they wanted, and their husbands are being completely inflexible. There is also the multitude of threads of women worrying over becoming the default parent, or having to quit their job, or boyfriend/fiance etc has decided that the women in the equation is going to stay home.

Where does this come from, that to many it's not even  a thought that they could stay home instead of mom? Especially for younger men, men 50 and younger GenXers and Millenials I can understand in precvious generations  where the society was stll so patriarchal.

There have been many good points made regard socialization,  men being criticized for staying home the way women are criticized for ether choice, religion, and culture.

And interesting though I consider bogus claims of men being incapable of nurturing. Though I do think there could be an argument for their being a biological drive for a mom to be near her infant.

I guess what are we getting wrong?
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