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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a knock on moms  that choose to stay home of their own volition.

I'm talking about guys who marry a woman with a career.  Guys that get with awoman knowing her career is important to her, that she spent years getting into her position, same as he did,  that just assume she'll stay home because he doesn't like  daycare or his mom stayed home, and his brother's wife stays home, or because he makes money?

Why is it overwhelmingly the woman who is expected to sacrifice her career ,even if it's not what she wants.

To be fair, I now one dad who altered his career to stay home when his kids were small instead of ecpexting his wife, too, but why is this so rare?[/quote]

As long as SO many women model this "lifestyle" for future generations, it will be hard to change.

There are so many wealthy women on this forum who won't OWN this part of the legacy they are leaving.

It is one thing before your kids start school. It is quite another when your kids are in middle school and high school. 
Why is it okay that someone pays for your food and housing, like they do for their children?

The height of irony are the stay at home moms who complain that their husbands don't do enough around the house. How much do you do around his office?

This is coming from a woman, who works outside the home and is a good mom also. [/quote]

Thanks for doing your part in shaming sahm’s and continuing the mommy wars! Most well adjusted, married humans consider any income earned by either parent as jointly owned, so no, the husband is not “paying” for his very own sahm. Household chores and kids’ stuff are mostly handled by sahm. They don’t just disappear bc the kids are in middle or high school. I doubt your shitty office job is so much more super special or important than housework. Same goes for your husband too. Your retrograde views are disgusting and I’m positive you’re not a good mom bc you’re a judgey bitch.[/quote]

You are no better PP . You could have ignored this response and answered the actual question  of the thread, but instead you chose to engage in drama and further the wars.[/quote]

No idiot, I have no obligation to sit silently and ignore someone who insults an entire group of women. If my reply is too dramatic for you, why don’t you take your own advice, stop engaging, and mind your own business?[/quote]

You are very defensive, which suggest you realize the PP who set you off said something that hit home for YOU. She spoke specifically about wealthy housewives complaining about their husbands.  If you stay at home, the home is your job. Isn't that what SAHMs fight to be recognized for?  That they are doing worthwhile work of child raising and taking care of the home, ie., cleaning, cooking, etc.?  What exactly is your beef with what the PP said?  How is she shaming all SAHMs?  She's not.  You are the nasty one who completely flew off the handle and started the name calling.[/quote]

OP here pp was patronizing, and her comment was meant to antagonize and instigate mommy wars.  This thread is not supposed to be mommy wars.  SO I'd like to try to get back on topic. If people don't want to do that I'll just ask Jeff to delete, because I'm not interested in bashing women for working or staying home.[/quote]

DP here. I agree with you. I think many of the responses have been positive and thoughtful, but obviously not the few PPs above. You can ask Jeff to delete derailing and mommy war posts -- he will do it. [/quote]

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