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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh! Just spoon some f$cking potatoes on the guy’s plate and be done with it.

Am I an insane person? Because more and more I’m finding that you all make no sense to me whatsoever. This post and your follow up commentary has taken more time than an entire lifetime of plopping down an extra helping of food on a relative’s plate when he asks for it. [/quote]

I feel 200% in line with this poster. This seems like a super mental thing to be upset about. He must be bothering you generally and this thing is emblematic of the larger issues? If not that then you seem really overly intense about a minor thing he does to everyone[/quote]

OP here. I just checked back in after a few days. I’m really surprised at this response. Here’s another example. Pizza boxes are on the island, we are using paper plates, super informal. I walk up to the island with my plate. Open the box of the pizza I would like, and before I can put any on my own plate, FIL sticks his arm in with his plate and says, “can you put 2 on my plate?” If he waited just 25 seconds I would have been done and completely out of his way. My answer was “when I’m finished serving myself I will” but I’d like him to just stop doing this altogether. I think it’s obnoxious and rude. I wouldn’t tolerate this from my children at any age.[/quote]

DP.  The more you post the more rude I think you are.  Your example here is a great exhibit of why.  You felt/saw him come up (or you're so self-focused that you didn't see/feel him come up) and still didn't do the proper/polite host role and turn to help your guest and instead chose to snipe at him.[/quote]

What is all this hosting stuff.  If you are serving pizza then it's a pretty chill family evening together.  If it's Thanksgiving then yes step up the hosting but this hosting thing of the 1950's where the female solely has to serve the eldest in the room first is so old fashioned.  It's very telling that none of those posters have suggested that whilst OP was helping the children her DH could have helped the FIL.  Or the MIL could have helped where is she in all of this.

But I see that no, the men shouldn't lift a finger, including the DH who is this man's son.  Nope it has to be Op, lets make sure those out dated silly opinions of the past are still living and breathing today. No FIL is targeting OP because he believes as the female she should be serving him and treating him different rather than him acting like a grown up adult who can pick up a slice of pizza out of a box or wait for the shrimp to be passed down the table.

Yes folks you are saying that it's ok that this adult cannot pick up pizza out of a box for himself.  Really I would think he needs a full medical if he can't do that.  It sounds like a pretty casual evening if pizza is involved, this hosting stuff is so silly for such a casual affair.  Perhaps back in the day that mattered when people sat around the piano to watch people play but today things are different can we please stay in this century.[/quote]

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