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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh! Just spoon some f$cking potatoes on the guy’s plate and be done with it.

Am I an insane person? Because more and more I’m finding that you all make no sense to me whatsoever. This post and your follow up commentary has taken more time than an entire lifetime of plopping down an extra helping of food on a relative’s plate when he asks for it. [/quote]

I feel 200% in line with this poster. This seems like a super mental thing to be upset about. He must be bothering you generally and this thing is emblematic of the larger issues? If not that then you seem really overly intense about a minor thing he does to everyone[/quote]

OP here. I just checked back in after a few days. I’m really surprised at this response. Here’s another example. Pizza boxes are on the island, we are using paper plates, super informal. I walk up to the island with my plate. Open the box of the pizza I would like, and before I can put any on my own plate, FIL sticks his arm in with his plate and says, “can you put 2 on my plate?” If he waited just 25 seconds I would have been done and completely out of his way. My answer was “when I’m finished serving myself I will” but I’d like him to just stop doing this altogether. I think it’s obnoxious and rude. I wouldn’t tolerate this from my children at any age.[/quote]

DP.  The more you post the more rude I think you are.  Your example here is a great exhibit of why.  You felt/saw him come up (or you're so self-focused that you didn't see/feel him come up) and still didn't do the proper/polite host role and turn to help your guest and instead chose to snipe at him.[/quote]

agree. Serve older parents first. Also helpful because if kids are served first it's really hard for them to wait till everyone else is served to eat. You think FIL is rude but he probably thinks you're rude and is trying to teach manners. Old school manners, admittedly, and unfair to target you instead of his son, but exhibiting respect for elders will benefit YOU in the long run.[/quote]

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