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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh! Just spoon some f$cking potatoes on the guy’s plate and be done with it.

Am I an insane person? Because more and more I’m finding that you all make no sense to me whatsoever. This post and your follow up commentary has taken more time than an entire lifetime of plopping down an extra helping of food on a relative’s plate when he asks for it. [/quote]

I feel 200% in line with this poster. This seems like a super mental thing to be upset about. He must be bothering you generally and this thing is emblematic of the larger issues? If not that then you seem really overly intense about a minor thing he does to everyone[/quote]

OP here. I just checked back in after a few days. I’m really surprised at this response. Here’s another example. Pizza boxes are on the island, we are using paper plates, super informal. I walk up to the island with my plate. Open the box of the pizza I would like, and before I can put any on my own plate, FIL sticks his arm in with his plate and says, “can you put 2 on my plate?” If he waited just 25 seconds I would have been done and completely out of his way. My answer was “when I’m finished serving myself I will” but I’d like him to just stop doing this altogether. I think it’s obnoxious and rude. I wouldn’t tolerate this from my children at any age.[/quote]
He is as annoying as heck. I am pp with FIL who won't cut in, but wants people to serve him. You will notice that many pps here, no doubt most women, are enforcers of "this is not a big deal." They are the reason we are still dealing with this crap, your MIL? Does she say anything to him? Imagine one firm, "John, you are annoying as hell," in front of everyone? Or your DH? He should say the same. Put the FIL in his place, but instead he has been doing this so long that now you are called the crazy one, right? To turn it on those that think it is not a big deal, why is your complaining about it being a big deal then? Because you are a woman! You are supposed to put up with this crap! Hypocrites, one and all.
[b]I'd turn it on him. Next meal, you put your plate in the middle of the table, and say "John, can you serve me some?" And keep at it! Every meal for a couple of days. Sure, it is immature, but he knows what he is doing. He is doing it on purpose, and he will recognize your behavior as his.[/b][/quote]

I would honestly do this, just to see how he responds. If he responds in a way that doesn't get you the food you want, I'd use that exact response on him the next time he asks you for food. Everyone else in the room would pick up on that, if they're smart enough. Hopefully they'll start doing the same.[/quote]

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