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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH likes status quo.  I’m not working right now, so he wants me to continue not working.  
If I were working, he would want me to keep working.

He also doesn’t understand any of my angst about it or why it feels like a big decision.  [/quote]

Who cares what your husband wants? What do you want? It is 2020 and women should be able to financially take care of themselves. Actually they should have been able to at year 1995+.[/quote]

I care what he thinks because he is my partner in this weird non-profit we have started that sucks up all of our time and resources.  He is also my best friend.  
Why do you hate men so much?[/quote]

NP. Your post was all about what your husband wanted, which I'm guessing is what PP was picking up one. It would one thing to say I want X and my husband also wants X. But you just said my husband wants X, without any input as to what you want. Do you really not see that?[/quote]

Yeah.  I had three minutes to come up with a response and type it out.  It's a message board.  She asked if I plan to go back and what my husband thought about it.  I am not sure about whether or not to go back (hence the angst), and my husband doesn't have a strong opinion.   I elaborated on his opinion a little more than mine only because I think it's worth seeking out why your husband has the opinion that he does and how strong it is rather than just accepting it for what it is.  If your husband wants you to SAH because he feels very strongly about it, you discussed it before marriage, and your entire social group is built on SAH wives and WOH dads, then it might be a big issue if you want to go to work.  If your husband wants you to SAH because he is happy now and doesn't want to disrupt it, then that's more easily overcome.    
    
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Ok, my point was that you jumped to PP hating men (?!?) because she asked why you cared what your husband wants because that was the only thing you posted about. My point was that you jumped to a seriously weird conclusion about the PP who responded to you based on what you wrote instead of acting like a grownup and thinking about why she might have thought that way.[/quote]

Ehh...asking a woman why she would care about her husband or what he wants is a man-hating comment.  At the very least, it certainly isn’t meant to be kind.  I’m not really even sure how it could be neutral.

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