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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In our house there would be a shouting match over this  :x [/quote]

You could shout until you were blue but I get to spend my money on whom I choose as do OP's in-laws.  They owe zero to her son by another man.

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Do many step grandparents truly feel this way? [/quote]

NP but yes. Step parents should love the kids, but why should step grandparents? The kid still has 4 grandparents. [/quote]

OP have you approached the bio Dad's parents to fund the child's education?  It seems odd that your son has 4 deceased grandparents.[/quote]

The lack of compassion and life experience on here is astounding. Of course a kid can have 4 deceased grandparents. I had 3 deceased grandparents before I was born, and the one remaining had Alzheimer's. There was certainly no money to go to any grandkids in any meaningful amount. It's not a matter of "caring enough" to save for a grandkids education-- not everyone has the privilege of grandparents, let alone grandparents that can leave an inheritance.

I think it is especially cruel that people think it is perfectly fine for a grandparent not to show any kind of affection for a stepchild-- especially one that has been a part of the family from a young age. [/quote]

Uhhh. Since when does  not funding someone‘s college education = not showing any kind of affection?

She refers to her son as HER son, not her and her DH’s son. Of course her MIL also sees that distinction. [/quote]

I was referring to a LOT of PPs who seem to think it perfectly fine for a stepgrandparent not to care about a step grandchild.

I don't think not funding someone's college education equals not showing any affection, but when they openly fund [b]the other grandchild's[/b] education without any kind of acknowledgement that it creates an uncomfortable situation for this kid's stepmom and stepbrother... They should have discussed it with the family. That's what a loving, functional family does.[/quote]

He's not their other grandchild.[/quote]

If you are typical of how blended families think and talk about each other, then no wonder divorce is so traumatizing on kids.

Many of these posters are advocating second class citizenship between young siblings, within households. That to me is tragic and twisted.

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