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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In our house there would be a shouting match over this  :x [/quote]

You could shout until you were blue but I get to spend my money on whom I choose as do OP's in-laws.  They owe zero to her son by another man.

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Do many step grandparents truly feel this way? [/quote]

NP but yes. Step parents should love the kids, but why should step grandparents? The kid still has 4 grandparents. [/quote]

OP have you approached the bio Dad's parents to fund the child's education?  It seems odd that your son has 4 deceased grandparents.[/quote]

The lack of compassion and life experience on here is astounding. Of course a kid can have 4 deceased grandparents. I had 3 deceased grandparents before I was born, and the one remaining had Alzheimer's. There was certainly no money to go to any grandkids in any meaningful amount. It's not a matter of "caring enough" to save for a grandkids education-- not everyone has the privilege of grandparents, let alone grandparents that can leave an inheritance.

I think it is especially cruel that people think it is perfectly fine for a grandparent not to show any kind of affection for a stepchild-- especially one that has been a part of the family from a young age. [/quote]

Uhhh. Since when does  not funding someone‘s college education = not showing any kind of affection?

She refers to her son as HER son, not her and her DH’s son. Of course her MIL also sees that distinction. [/quote]

I was referring to a LOT of PPs who seem to think it perfectly fine for a stepgrandparent not to care about a step grandchild.

I don't think not funding someone's college education equals not showing any affection, but when they openly fund [b]the other grandchild's[/b] education without any kind of acknowledgement that it creates an uncomfortable situation for this kid's stepmom and stepbrother... They should have discussed it with the family. That's what a loving, functional family does.[/quote]

He's not their other grandchild.[/quote]

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