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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, first you need to want to change, and you aren’t quite there yet. Perhaps you could commit to doing more observation about the impact your behavior has on your kids? And see if that gets you to a place of genuinely wanting to change.

I get it. I’m somewhat like you except my issues are all health and safety related. I don’t care about the molding or the activities. But I do care about car seats to an irrational degree, and organic food and not putting plastics in the dishwasher and water safety and on and on. But all of it to a level that will give my child an anxiety disorder. And I can see that, but I’m not willing to change because I FEEL like I’m keeping her safe. [b]And I’m not willing to stop doing what I’m doing and make myself more anxious for the possible long term benefit to her mental health because it feels unsafe.[/b] You’re doing the same thing but it’s about crown molding. You’re not ready to make yourself more uncomfortable and anxious yet. When you are, you will figure out a way to make the change happen.[/quote]

You seem really self aware, so what do you think would be the sort of "a ha" that would make you change or try to change for your and her own relationship ? No snark, just curious.[/quote]

The top poster has classic anxiety thinking, which just ends up making anxiety worse. If you want to feel better, you have to lean into feeling unsafe.[/quote]

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