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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Heck yes. Single mom, working from home full time. 2 second graders. Just got an email today from one of the teachers that one of my girls hasn’t turned in her social studies and science slides since May 4 and will likely impact her final assessment.

WTF?! Second graders are expected to self teach about the American Revolution.

I have struggled, pushed, reviewed and corrected mat and ELA slides on a daily basis for 2 kids since March. The Science/Social studies slides were posted in the weekly discussion section, not the daily assignments.

I’m so angry, overwhelmed, and feeling like complete f’ing failure because I can’t be a mom, employee, full time caretaker, homemaker, and teacher at the same time. [/quote]

Hi PP, please don't feel like a failure.  There's no way you could be doing it all.

I am a teacher; I can't speak for your child's teacher but from my point of view, I have to send emails letting parents know their kids didn't complete work to cover myself if they complain about the grade.  WHO CARES about a second graders SS grade though?  If you don't I am sure it won't be a problem.

But right now I am being urged to get all makeup work in so I am reaching out to parents to let them know their child has missing work.  I am willing to sit down with the kids over a Zoom or Google Meet conference and talk them through their missing assignments too.   If you just let the teacher know what is going on she might also be willing to help your child just get credit

OR just go on the damn slides and fill them out for your child and send them in.  There's always that low stress option.  Don't worry about it.  Make life easy on yourself and your kids.[/quote]

I know teacher Pp you are trying to be kind but are you really suggesting that it is productive for this overwhelmed parent to do their kids’ assignment so you can check off a box?  Why oh why are you giving assignments that require so much supervision for kids to do, knowing that many don’t have parents who have the bandwidth to help?  Writing slides about the American revolution in 2nd grade?  Seriously?

More importantly why are actually assessing whether students turn this work in?  As you clearly state, whether they turn it in and how good it is is just a measure of how much extra time and energy the parents have to put toward this. It has virtually no correlation toward any type of educational achievement you would want to assess. You are literally assessing whether a child has a good home life. Yes that factors in normally but normally there is also some modicum of whether the child does the work as you actually also have them do work in school.

This is ridiculous. I say this as someone with all of the privilege in the world - I have an incredibly safe job, a PhD,a nanny who comes now full time and helps my kids with their work so I don’t have to.

I really wish teachers would do something less stupid with their days than look for missing work that required parents to master complex software, supervise their kids.  I wish they actually sought out the kids who are being left behind who have no tablet and talked to them or got books mailed to them , checked in with kids who they suspect might be being abused and worked with parents to make sure their kids learned something. 
Instead you are shaming this parent to keep your meaningless paperwork straight.

I really think most teachers mean well but I wish that this crisis has helped us remember the purpose of school and learning and education and not become meaningless hubs of checklists and videos. We are already drowning in that in the 21st  century. Please. Stop. 
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