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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^What’s sick is people bring this up in individual therapy and the therapist does not address the risk or the STDs or the health of the partner.  They just discuss the cheater’s thoughts and feelings.  No push to do the ethical thing to tell the spouse, come clean, even when it’s clear the double life is the source is many problems in the person’s psyche: anger, anxiety, etc.  at the very least, the therapist should have an ethical reason to require an unknowing spouse be informed their health is in danger due to the unprotected sex.[/quote]

I’m addition to being livid at OW and my husband, I am absolutely livid at his shitty therapist.  He went in 6 months on his own initiative (severe stress, drinking more, etc) before he ended the affair (I never knew about it when it was going on) because he needed help with anger, with repressed childhood abuse/abandonment and the stress of what he was doing.  He told the therapist about the affair by session 3.  He conveyed he didn’t love her and spoke highly of me.  Not once did therapist provide any suggestion that his increase in drinking and anger were related to the 4-year affair.  Not once did she ask about safety—my health, his family’s, etc.  At 6 months, thus dumb bitch hadn’t had him psychologically tested or even asked about his childhood.  She gave techniques for managing anger completely ignoring the whore elephant in the room who was a borderline passive aggressive personality contributing majorly to all of these issues.  Husband had an episode- blew up, ended affair himself.  I find out after the fact.

What a waste of f@cking $ that therapist was and her “assumption” of his issues/mental health were 100% wrong as revealed by testing/evaluation by two different psychiatrists.

Do not use and therapist under 45 for anything to do with marriage/infidelity, etc.  Zero morals. A.G., you should use your license.[/quote]

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