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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A group of 6 (4 dudes 2 chicks) of us from College still keep in touch and hang out with each other’s families and children. I am one of the chicks, were all mid 30s and all 4 of the guys cheat on their wives. They discuss it openly amongst us, and they’ve done it many times not just with one AP. It’s awful but it’s not my place to say anything, and their spouses are so “my husband is perfect” they would never believe it. It’s weird hanging out with them while feeling sorry for them that they actually have no idea the person they married.[/quote]

So what if you found out that your husband has been cheating for a while and all of his friends knew?  Would you have wanted someone to tell you?[/quote]

Of COURSE?!!!!

Who wants to find out in year 3 or 4 when somebody could have told them at month 2-3 before things were too far gone.

Also—these losers are having unprotected sex and then going back and screwing their spouses.  That is CRIMINAL.[/quote]

The husband who has these worthless friends is also cheating, or cheated. First I would contact the wives or at least anonymously.  Secondly I would be checking up on my husband and finally he would need to get new friends. I couldn't respect my spouse if all his friends were dirt bags. There's a reason he's friends with them.

If he has a Google account one of my friends checks up on her husband who cheated.  She puts in myactivity.google.com on the computer and can see his whereabouts. She makes sure his location is on, and to date he hasn't figured it out.  I feel like everyone should spot check their spouse. If you're not doing wrong then you shouldn't care imo. Of course I wouldn't tell them either.  Getting a serious disease is criminal.[/quote]

You realise that tracking your partners whereabouts continuously amounts to domestic abuse. [/quote]Not the previous poster but I'll answer for her.  Tough titties.  When I didn't trust my W it was some time before I found out about that Google link.  Thankfully she had tracking turned on and I was able to look back over a year.  It showed everywhere she had been and exactly what time.  Better than that, it saved every single one of her talk-to-text messages.  It provides the written script, or I could listen to her as it saved the recording.  And she always uses talk-to-text while driving.  It was only her end of the conversation but that was plenty.  When I started confronting her about things, she had no idea how I got my very specific information.   I watched in near real time (it's a few minutes delayed) as she left work one time after telling me she had to stay late a few hours.  Tracked her to another address where she spent a few hours, then all the way home.  I watched her as she looked right on my face and lied, over and over before I confronted her with exactly what I knew including times and places. She STILL denied it.

It's not, "domestic abuse" and every Fing thing you don't like is not abuse.  I do strongly believe a spouse is entitled to their privacy but, if you lie to me, I'll do anything and everything I can to find out the truth on my own and you forfeit your privacy.  The best thing about this is, it wasn't me tracking her.  She allowed Google to track her.  I just accessed the logs.  She even went to the phone store when she thought I'd put a tracking device on her phone, and they cleaned it and installed a program that blocks those devices.  Makes no difference when you allow Google to track you, which it does by default.  [/quote]

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