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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you plan to do with the information, op?  You can look up any public record you want.  Anybody else can too, that’s why it’s called a public record.

Some of the responses on this thread surprise me, it makes me wonder if you all freak out because “a stranger has my address” while that stranger is the substitute letter carrier or something.

Also, plenty of you would be suggesting that a dear friend “check public records” to make sure that a boyfriend isn’t “secretly married” “really owns that cool car he took you out in” “really lives where he says he lives”, there is absolutely nothing wrong with looking up public data on anything or anyone you want. It isn’t stalking or nosy, and having dealt with a stalker, I do wish people would use the term correctly.

Onto you op, I do wonder what you plan to do with this information.  My husband thinks you are not a nice person which is interesting since he loves checking out public records. He may be right about you.

I’d want to know why you posted this at all given that you were not doing anything wrong, and what you plan to do with the information.  Do you plan to say at Thanksgiving dinner “It isn’t really your house dear” in a way that will make this relative feel bad, then you are not a nice person.  Do you want to explain the risks of living in a house where she is not on the title or deed, then ok, you can say your piece once and only once.  Have you been asked to contribute to Sally’s house” only to find that the money you gave her went to a boyfriend? You have a right to be annoyed and to say “I’ll never contribute to anything again for her or anybody else, that is how much this upsets me”.  Then leave it alone, nobody can take your money without your permission, if they do it’s a crime… literally.

Only you know your motivations for posting, and what you intend to do.  I’d hope you acted with love and kindness or if you can’t do that, do and say nothing realizing that you are not finantially, morally or legally responsible for another adult even one you love.    [/quote]

Pretty simple imo. She suspected she was lying and checked her story.

Don't blame the cop. Blame the person doing wrong like her lying relative.[/quote]

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