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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is one of the top 10 dumbest threats on DCUM.

I guess we’ve decided to take a break from the  WOH versus SAHM cage match and switch to moms versus child free.

How anyone else celebrates their Mother’s Day, or what they say about it, does not affect me.

Whether or not other people choose to have children, and whether or not they look good while doing it or not doing it, also has nothing to do with me.

I just don’t get the people who apparently have so little conflict in their life that they need to invent some. [/quote]

I'm one of the people arguing in OP's favor. And I actually hate mother's day because mostly I am always stressed out about my mother and MIL and stepmother who will all be disappointed to different levels of crazy if not acknowledged. I have three kids of my own. I do not really CARE so to speak how other people spend mother's day. Someone posting about their dogs like, whatever I'll roll my eyes but it isn't keeping me up at night (I also have dogs that I love very deeply).

But when it is proposed as a question in abstract, this bothers me, particularly about mother's day. Because there is almost nothing else like this, a day/month/whatever designed to honor a group, where it is so acceptable for others to barge in. No one tries to hone in on Father's Day. No Latino people are arguing they should be honored during black history month. And in fact, when someone starts griping about how their should be a white history month they are mocked and told to get a life (as they should be).

And its because its about women, and women always get the shaft. Women's work is devalued and diluted all the time. And it just feels like another instance of devaluing women's work. Anyone can be a mom! Raising a dog is just like raising a kid, being an aunt is just like raising a kid blah blah blah. It is so rare that we celebrate women with vigor and specificity. Why not have an aunts day to celebrate pp's fantastic aunt who supports her entire family? That is a legitimately different thing, and that doesn't make it a lesser thing, just a different thing. Why not have a pet parent day? Celebrating animals. That would be fine and great. Why is it mother's day that is supposed to absorb all these other people who want to be honored and probably should be honored with a day but are not. Because that is what being a mother is like, taking on the emotional needs of others and putting them before your own. It's just the whole thing philosophically that bothers me.

And I'm sure everyone is going to say I'm an insecure loser but I really don't care much about the day itself. My family made me breakfast and DH let me sleep in, we didn't have some huge thing, and I was thrilled with it. So this isn't sour grapes, it is legitimately just a philosophical issue with how Mother's day gets co opted in a way that no other days do. Even 'galentines day' chose to be on February 13! [/quote]

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