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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP where was your conviction about staging loyal to your spouse with your first wife? You were able to get a divorce and overcome that sense of obligation.

You make your own decisions. You are not actually “one” with your wife.

You have stood by (this is a decision YOU made) while she ABUSED your children and then you PARTICIPATED IN ABUSING your children.

At what point would you have decided to grown a spine, and stood up for yourself and your children? When she had a knife at your daughters carotid? Gun to the chest?

You can change this. You make your own decisions. Get therapy for yourself or if you can’t really afford that (because purchasing hobby items is more important than your mental health and you as the breadwinner do nothing to intervene) get a self help book.

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As I said I think I was depressed when I left #1. She was also acting out but in hindsight I think it was extreme stress at my suddenly pulling away and her own childhood abandonment issues.  I did seek religious, individual and marital counseling; the marital counseling didn’t go well and she wasn’t following what we agreed to do which really bugged me.

I think her behavior made me mad and I was partially acting out to “punish” her.  Like a stupid child. 
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