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[quote=Anonymous]It's true though that op needs to be realistic about how his life will change. They won't be able to save as much money as he's expecting and he will have to help out more than he realizes.

I do not, I repeat do no, believe a household NEEDS a sahm parent. It's the transition that is a bitch.

I just returned to work and my stupid husband is already pissed about my "outrageous" spending. I even listed it all out to him before I started back (He was the one who really thought it was time, financially). Expenses have included a very modest work wardrobe (which adds up quick), after school care, a dog walker, and eating out more. On top of all the little things we've delayed. Our stove is broken and has functioned minimally for 3 years. Or deck needs replaced. A handful of other things. 
I'm sure there will be expenses specific to your life.

And I know this isn't the point of your post, but expect your home duties to get more difficult than you are expecting. Plus, plan to take more time off for all of the kid and household things your wife normally took care of (you'll have more paid leave saved up, and she'll need to be present as it's a new job). Kid illnesses, urgent care, scheduled dental appointments and well child Dr visits, teacher meetings, volunteering at school, being home for home repair appointments, veterinarian needs. It's a lot. My husband somehow didn't think about the little things I got done for us during the day (so cliche).

Obviously it's doable. Couples get it done every day. I'm just trying to prepare you for what a huge change this will be, and how small the financial gains might actually be. [/quote]

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