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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Why would you even get married in this situation. I am shocked by some of the marriages I read about here.[/quote]

I chalk some of this up to later marriages and the times we live in. I have been married for 37 years. We got married in our 20's (25 and 27) and neither of us had much (husband was still in school getting a PhD). Our first real estate purchase was 5 years into our marriage and all on our jointly saved money. This was very common at the time. Of course people didn't have much in student loans back then either. I had a small one and my husband had none. We never used credit cards. Credit cards were not as available and our parents had never used them so it was just not a typical thing like it is now. Computers were not around to track everything.

Things have changed a lot. I worked with a young woman and she talked about bachelor/bachelorette parties in resort locations around the world. We never had such parties. She and her future husband bought a house before they even married. The wedding was very upscale (ours was not). Now everyone puts up all their plans/parties/homes/etc. online and everyone can see everything. She even compared her husband's friends to hers in terms of money (and hers came up "higher"). In short, I am not shocked that some of these marriages do not work out. [/quote]

Gee, grandma, can you tell me what it was like in the olden times, when women were basically property, passed from father to husband, and weren't allowed to hold bank accounts or property without a man around to supervise?  Or the good old days of college not costing tens of thousands of dollars?  Yeah, it was a lot easier not to go into debt for education four decades ago - next you'll tell me that things were less expensive, and healthcare was more affordable too!  I will take the times we live in over when women had little control over their financial destinies and OP would simply have to go along for the ride with her spendthrift husband.  It's nice that nowadays, these marriages don't have to work out and women have choices not tied to a man.

But, sure, the problem is social media, credit cards, and people having assets of their own prior to marriage.[/quote]

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