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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is childcare work when someone is paid to do it but not work when a parent does it?
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Because in one case it’s parenting/living life.[/quote]

This.

It’s nit a job.  It’s a relationship.  I wouldn’t quit my job to be a nanny for some other children, but it’s very important for me to be able to be home with my own children.

It’s kind of like brushing your teeth.  Brushing a strangers teeth is a job.  Brushing your own teeth is part of life.  And while I probably wouldn’t pay a lot or need someone highly educated to brush my teeth if I couldn’t do it, I would give up a lot to be able to do it on my own.  [/quote]

Childcare is still work that needs to be done. Either you pay someone to do it, or you do it yourself, but it remains work that needs to be done by someone and has value as such.

When a parent does the work of childcare, the family saves the money they would have spent and that has value, huge value in our area.  
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So does taking a shower and brushing your teeth.  If you are in a position that you have to pay someone to do those things for you, it’s expensive.

But the benefits of doing those things myself for myself far outweigh the financial benefits.  There is an intrinsic benefit to taking care of my own personal hygiene or taking care of my own children.  That intrinsic value comes from the relationship I have with myself or my children, and that’s what makes it not a job.  It doesn’t matter what I would pay someone else to do it.  [/quote]

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