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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading this thread has convinced me to not have another baby. I need to just convince DW - she's on the fence and can go either way.

Current baby is 7 months old and we are already exhausted from five wake-ups last night. I can't imagine juggling two kids under the age of 2. Eff that,[/quote]

C’mon.  Having two kids under two is HARD.  Most couples don’t want to do this.  The ones who do are usually approaching 40 and don’t want to miss out on a second kid.

If you want to keep things relatively easy, wait until the second kid in preschool and waking up at a decent time.

Also you need to sleep train!!!  Why are you even tending to a 7 month old 5 times a night?  That’s your own choice.  Only time you should be doing that is if the baby is ill.  Babies that age shouldn’t even eat during the night.  Take care of this problem now before it gets worse.  [/quote]

We are in the middle of sleep training. The kid just simply isn't there yet. Some nights are great (8 hours - yes!) and other nights are horrible (5 wake-ups). Last night, baby woke up horribly thirsty - had dry lips and refused to take the pacifier due to lack of saliva.

Like I said, I can't imagine this with two young kids. We are so burned out and already have stressful jobs. A second child will really change our finances, too. [/quote]

If you think this is hard, you should not have a 2nd but don't try to stop your wife from having more kids. That is where you will go wrong.

Be honest, you thought you could be a father, but quite frankly you are a little soft and you over estimated your ability.

Don't stand in your wife's way of wanting more kids. Don't blame her for your failing at this. Don't have a kid to "keep the marriage'.

Be honest and let her find a life partner who is up for this having kids, being tired, working and being loving and supportive instead of a whiny mess. [/quote]

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