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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think it is strange at all at the end of the day that she wants to spend time with her grandchild. I get you want her to want you as a friend and to see you the way she sees her grandson but that is rare. She isn't going to invite just you over to have lunch. If you need more friends and that is why you are so jealous of your son and her spending time together, go make them, she isn't going to be your BFF.

She is calling you, making pleasant chit chat, showing an interest in you and asking about seeing her grandson. that sounds completely appropriate and normal and healthy. It isn't taking to want a relationship with your children and grandchildren at all.

I have no idea what your actual issue is. Maybe you are lonely and jealous, maybe you are just burnt out, maybe you are envious of her for some reason, maybe you are just incredibly sensitive, maybe you need everything to be about you...I don't know. The problem in this scenario though is you not her. Do some self reflection and try to figure out what the real issue is for you.[/quote]

+1  all of this.  She opened with politeness, she asked about your life, and she'd like to see her grandchild.  This is a normal, healthy interaction.  That you see it as her acting as a "taker" is ... coming from something other than what you've demonstrated here.  Are you just super overwhelmed with your husband out of town and any comment at all feels like a criticism?  It would be perfectly okay to respond that you don't know when you can make the drive in the near future but that they're welcome to drive to you, but to take to a message board about how you're at your wits end because she asked how your holidays went an expressed an interest in seeing your son is ... well it's not reasonable.[/quote]

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