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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I was in this exact same position.  I went (with my boyfriend) to a couples therapist who specializes in blending families.

It was incredibly eye opening for me.  You have to be prepared for some very harsh realities but once you have accepted them, it is very life changing. It helped my boyfriend establish appropriate boundaries with his ex, and made me see how I was taking things way too personally.

His children were always the therapists main priority.  You have to accept that. You are secondary. You have to accept that. You don't have to like it but your boyfriend will always prioritize them. You have to decide if that is the kind of relationship you can handle.  It's not easy but it's the way it is.

I'm telling you to seek therapy not because there is a thing wrong with you, but because you really should understand these dynamics before you are unable to think with your head and you're just thinking with your heart. Good luck. [/quote]

Thank you. I will suggest couple's therapy to my boyfriend. I think that a lot of people misunderstood me when I mentioned his children would be graduating soon. I meant that once they're older, a lot of the uncomfortableness will cease because there won't be anymore every other weekend visitation. People here are so angry and mean and clearly projecting from their own experiences. -Op[/quote]

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