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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bring a dozen bagels with a jar of peanut butter, a tub of cream cheese, a jar of pizza sauce, a bag of shredded mozzarella, some easy hand fruit, and some freezer bags.

Everything is fairly nonperishable ( I ask if they want me to slice and freeze any bagels before I leave) and can be eaten one handed at different times of day. A bagel with cream cheese or pb, or a pizza bagel, are super easy and  gives some variety.[/quote]

I like this idea! Just make sure they’re good bagels[/quote]

How about just be sure to appreciate and be grateful someone brought you some food,!  New mother's have months to prepare and freeze food.  No need to bring anything.[/quote]

If there was a recent power outage, the new mom may have lost months of food preparation. Happened with one of my good friends after a hurricane - the hospital told her to stay, since there was likely no power yet, my friend went home after verifying with her neighbors that power had been on all day. She returned home to find the main line on the street went out soon after their power was back on.  She came home to think she had power, only to not have power, and all of the hotels were sold out since it had been a week without power.  No water, as the local supply had been contaminated. All of the meals my friend lovingly prepared and stocked in her freezer over past weeks were long spoiled. Her DH had an issue (to put it mildly) with tossing out old/expired/not edible food, so she had to empty the freezer herself, because the house reeked from the spoiled fridge and freezer of food and it was so pungent, she was throwing up. She was recovering from major surgery, so I went over to help her restock.  All this with her first newborn.

Not very likely to have all of these (one good, the rest bad) things happen at one time, but my friend was in a bad place with her DH doing everything BUT helping, so I was glad to be there for her, and she would do the same for me.

OP, "feel good" food is always welcome, especially if nursing.  Depending on your audience, maybe a lasagna? With fresh bread and salad?[/quote]

This is obviously a unique situation where the new mom really did need food.

However the new mom did herself a huge disservice doing the work of emptying the freezer and soliciting help from friends to restock their food items.  DH learned really fast that he doesn’t have to step up in a time of need because his wife and even her friends will do his work!  Can you imagine a man calling another man to help clean up his spoiled food items ??   Men need to step up and women need to demand accountability.  The new mom should have gone upstairs and camped or far away from the kitchen.  She should have focused on the baby, recovery and ordered food and water delivered until the DH got with the program.

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Are you a troll? This is such a bizarre attitude. My DS’s preschool organized a meal train for us that was a lifesaver when my DD came along. DH split up housework 50/50 pre DD and he probably cooked close to 90% of the time after DD came along. This includes having breakfast waiting for me every morning, packing DS’s lunch ( which I used to do), and most dinner prep. The meal train was a huge help to us to help free up DH’s time so he could focus attention on our DS whose world had been turned upside down. Also so he could do laundry. Provide me a break so I could focus on our DS, etc. [b]by the way, some men were the ones who signed up to deliver meal train meals.[/b] I do not get why you are so black and white on this and oddly hijacked this thread. [/quote]

I don’t believe you that there were multiple men who signed up to cook you dinner and brought it to you.  I just don’t.  [/quote]

Lol. Okay. Well I'm not going to share the link with you to prove it but it's true. I mean the men were still in the minority but there were at least 3 meals out of 7 that were either made by them or delivered by them or made in partnership (obviously we didn't do a survey when the food appeared so I'm making some assumptions...). Maybe we just run in a really great and supportive circle where the men have stepped it up from "day 1" as you put it. I doubt it's fully equal (I believe there's a study out there showing even when people perceive equality in the relationship, the women still does more of the caregiving and household chores) but the men are stepping up. My DH is even taking LWOP after my maternity leave ends as he did with my first so that we can try and equalize some of the child rearing and don't fall into the trap of me doing most of the child care even when I go back to work. This behavior isn't out of the ordinary in our circle but I do realize it's probably pretty different from how the average two-parent household experiences caregiving and household work. [/quote]

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