Reply to Vent about my sister just being a jerk

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Vent about my sister just being a jerk"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I posted earlier and your additional comments do not clear up the fact that you don't truly know if she's coming 'during the holidays' or not. Her flight info only informs you of when she won't be with you. Has she in past said she'd do something and then not? To me the 'holidays' if it were Christmas could be from Dec 15-week of New Years. You seem most interested in seeing your sister as selfish rather than as an adult with a full life trying to fit everything in.[/quote]

Op, first, I want to say that I understand why you are hurt. But I have the same questions as this poster.

When someone sends me an odd email with no explanation, I ask for clarification. I don't understand why you haven't addressed this. Certainly, you responded to the email. The most common sense thing to do is to ASK HER why she sent it. You can do it in a normal and cordial way. I would assume she sent it so you can work around her schedule. "Thanks for the itinerary, sis. It looks like you'll be home the week before Christmas, so I'll see if mom and dad can get together for a celebration on December 20th. Does that work for you?"

Or at the very least: Hi sis, your trip looks fun. As per our previous discussion, when are you guys available to get together for Thanksgiving? "

[/quote]

I can ask her. One problem is they live across the country and do not make that many trips back east. Usually it's once a year; the fact that they are traveling during both times suggests to me that they won't be around for either holiday. However, I can certainly ask and clarify.

About her track record: Yes, she consistently says she'll be around for family things and then bails. [/quote]

Don’t ask her this Op. Do not engage. She does not want to fly 3000 miles to see you. They probably have limited vacation time. Asking her this makes you look clueless. If she wants to visit between trips she will tell you. I would just drop it. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics