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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Correct. PP, this is called the mental load and it's an ongoing theme in most marriages, [/quote]

The "mental load" or "emotional labor" = made-up bullshit that women invent so they can feel put-upon and grumble about perfectly decent, hard-working, loving husbands. Sad![/quote]

You are clearly someone who doesn't carry any of the mental load. [/quote]

Exactly. To that poster I will say that any given time I have 20+ notes on my phone of random crap that needs to be done. 70% of it is absolutely necessary (call xyz company about over billing, make ortho appt for Susie, P/T conference for Larlo, refill prescription, call chimney sweep for appt, make hotel
For johns wedding, return field trip forms) blah blah blah blah. The rest tends to be basic relationship stuff so that we live in a half civilized society (send aunt Edna a bday card, call sister and see how surgery went, whatever). Only rarely is there an “unnecessary” item on the list- like schedule family
Photos.

My DH is great and I love him. And if I ask specifically he will do most of the above. but I am the one who needs to remember, and I need to ask him specifically and tell him what tasks. Very little of it would get done otherwise. [/quote]

And life would go on if there were some wiffs on these things.  Folks need to stop and go from back to front now and again, ie on my deathbed will this have mattered?  I swear there are people who make up issues cause that’s what they do.[/quote]

Sure life would go on but in this case:

You’d get a call from school because your kid can’t go on the field trip.  Your kill will flip out
You won’t have medication (maybe someone will die or get pregnant?)
You’ll have a bad credit score because you didn’t follow up on billing issues 
You won’t attend your friend/family member’s wedding 
Your house might burn down from the chimney

So yeah maybe you don’t require any of these but most people want to live a normal existence where they attend weddings, their kid is a normal kid at school, they have a good credit score and have their medication to take when they need it.

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