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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Maybe she has told him many times that she is not happy that he's not doing xyz or doing abc, but he's not listening. [/quote]
Then she should divorce her horrible non-listening husband with whom she is so unhappy.

[quote]Maybe sex isn't important to her, but fidelity and the family unit are, and that's why she doesn't cheat. [/quote]
Fidelity is just sex so you cannot claim that just ONE of these is important but not the other. You wrongly intersperse “the family unit” into unrelated statements. In fact, the family unit is destroyed by denial of sex and is saved by infidelity, so you have that all backwards.

[quote]Fidelity is not a need, but to say that if the spouse doesn't put out, then fidelity should not be expected is saying that even if you are super angry with the spouse, you should still put out, and just lay there because he will otherwise cheat is kind of rapey.  [/quote]
The angry spouse who doesn’t want sex should address the source of anger and if that’s not possible then divorce. She should not stay angry AND sexlessly married AND expect continued fidelity.

[quote]Maybe if both sides could sit and talk rationally it might help get to the root of the issue.  I think for the most part, some of these "cheaters" make very little effort to really work on the marriage, thinking they are the victims and feel they have every right to cheat.[/quote]

The sexless spouse clearly knows that the other spouse wants sex. What exactly is there to talk about? Oh you must mean the sexless spouse should be talking about why she’s so angry? Good advice, although misdirected. Sounds like you should be lecturing the “victims of a cheating husband” about how they need to sit and talk and work on the marriage instead of staying angry, sexlessly married, not divorcing, yet wondering why he is cheating.[/quote]

NP here. You really have contorted yourself into a huge knot of rationalizations.[/quote]

Me: expose multiple levels of hypocrisy and avoidance of accountability from PP
You: have no logical counter argument, dislike hearing the truth, resort to dismissive hand wave
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