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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, why do you care? If you don’t want to read it, then don’t read it.
I’ve asked questions on here. It doesn’t mean I’m obsessed about it. I like to see others point of view on situations.[/quote]

[b]Because it's really weird! I'm curious about how these people justify such weird behavior to themselves. You know you are making things worse when you reach out to the other parents right?[/b]

[b]The type of people who are raising mean girls and bullies are most likely not going to be responsive to your concerns[/b].[/quote]

Except sometimes kids are treated poorly by kids who are just kids, not sociopaths. When my son started MS he made friends easily. His buddy starting the same school did not, and in fact turned a lot of kids off with his behavior. It all kept escalating until there was unkindness on both sides. It did not help at first when his parents stepped in and started accusing everyone else of bullying, but it did slowly open the door to some honest conversations between adults and between kids and adults that were helpful. The adults did a little social engineering (like a small group was strongly encouraged to hang out with this kid, go to his birthday, etc., my son was encouraged to give him space) and I think the boy saw a counselor a few times though Im not sure. By the start of the next year a lot of the social conflict has was gone and friendships were formed.

I don’t think without adult involvement the toxic pattern would have ended so positively. The kid needed help to change his behavior and the “friend group” needed help to be a little more inclusive and understanding. All the grown ups involved had compassion about the situation. [/quote]

Wow - that is wonderful.[/quote]

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