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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, Ok, I'll bite since you don't seem to understand that people are telling the truth about minding their own business and having their own friends.

I can be perceived as a mean mom because I have a well-established group of friends who I enjoy hanging out with and whose kids are my friends' kids. I also have a job, two kids who have lots of activities, and a husband who travels a fair amount for work. The truth is that I have absolutely no bandwidth for any more friends, although I'm happy to say hello to anyone. But on the rare occasions that I come to pick up or go to a school event, I want to talk to my friends, who I miss and feel like I don't see often enough. I don't want to talk to Larla who I don't even know and don't have time to be friends with.

If I seem standoffish, it is because I don't feel like making stupid small talk with someone I don't want to get to know better. At this point in my life, I have enough friends and can't possibly make room for any more. And maybe, yes, you are awkard, or annoying, or have rubbed me the wrong way somehow at some point. Why would we want to get to know each other in this case? Find your own friends who don't find you uninteresting or abrasive, or whatever. Find people who actually want to find friends, not people like me who are up to their ears in life and can't handle one more relationship. I'm positive that I myself have rubbed people the wrong way, or haven't made the best impression and then haven't become friends with them. But guess what? I'm not obsessing over it on DCUM. I've moved on and found my own group of supportive, nice friends. [/quote]

OP is asking: "too much bandwidth" to say hello like a normal human being?  If you see someone often, and know that you go to preschool or whatever, together?  Get over yourself.  No one is saying they want to be best friends with you.  If anything, OP is taken aback at your rudeness, which happens on the regular.  The question is: why are you so proud of being rude?

Also, I have another point to make: the people you think are your "close circle of friends" are not - they gossip about you, and you don't even realize it.  Ask me how I know.  They talk worse about you than you ever gossiped about anyone else. And you do.[/quote]

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