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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ultimate hypocrisy. “The future is female” - so I’ll stay home while a man pays. [/quote]

I had a lengthy conversation with a sahd yesterday. Feel better?[/quote]

Was he at home with a son, a woman supporting them both, and crowing “the future is male!?”

I’d say no different were that the case.

If you don’t see the irony in that quote from the article, I can’t help you.[/quote]

When one person takes care of the children and homefront, that allows the partner to work, including travel, unfettered by childcare and other home-based concerns. There is huge value in that, and it’s the partnership that allows it. They are [b]both[/b] supporting the entire family unit. No irony.[/quote]

Except they are [b]both[/b] being terrible members of society by promoting the traditional “workaholic Dad with SAHW/personal assistant” setup. Just the other day, a senior person in my company (who has a SAHW) made a snarky comment about another guy taking his full paternity leave. At the end of the day, these assholes adhere to the traditional facetime/60 hours working week lifestyle instead of getting onboard with flexible work policies.[/quote]

Or not. My husband took his entire paternity leave with both our kids, even though I SAH with them. 
He also takes them to practices/lessons/games, actively helps with HW if they want, comes home early enough to not only eat dinner with us but makes it sometimes too.  Works from home when he can, travels only a few times a year for work, takes vacations where he doesn’t check work emails the entire week.

What he doesn’t do is drop them at before care or pickup from after care, freak out /fight with me over who can’t miss work because someone has to stay home again with a sick kid (did I mention that between my two they’ve missed two full weeks of school already with illnesses this year-five weeks into it!)

But I also don’t care and don’t freak out when the cashier or other random person asks if I have the day off. 
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But part of that is you are describing a scenario where neither parent aimed for a family friendly job — we both work full time, but have no problem calling in sick if a kid is sick, and with older elementary kids you just stay home in case they get worse, you can still work b/c they don’t need active care.  Most places have contingency planning, and very few roles REQUIRE a particular person on a PARTICULAR day until you get to thinks like CEOs etc — Doctors have shifts and trade off care, emergency personnel have coverage plans, etc.

Kinda curious, I’m sure I’m going to jinx myself but do most kids even get sick that often?  I think my kids have been home for like 5 days over 8 years of elementary school. Is that because of the trial by fire of daycare (though those are almost always endless colds, so never really stayed home) or because we get the flu shot?  I guess part of it is we genetically not susceptible to strep (none of us, parents included, have ever had it) — that seems to be the Bain of many families.[/quote]

About how many days my kids have missed-no, this is not necessarily normal. This is the most days in the least amount  of time my kids have missed. They are 8 and 12 and usually healthy. This has been a non overlapping virus plus strep and never ending fevers. 
We have definitely had streaks of a week long illness before. [/quote]

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