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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am not critical nor do I care what other people choose to do. But it is interesting that though I know lots of women who didn’t take their husband’s last name, I do not know a single child who has their mother’s maiden name as their surname.

For everyone saying some version of “I kept my name bc it was my identity but my children were blank slates” why does it follow that you would then give your children your husband’s name? Just because they’re a blank slate, they get their dad’s name instead of their mom’s because...?

Like I said, I really don’t care. But it does seem a little strange.[/quote]

I addressed this in my post - it meant a lot to him and did not mean a lot to me.  Neither name was exciting, rare, hard to pronounce, hard to spell, any of the factors that make one choose one over the other.  Unlike some of the other posters, keeping my name was partly political for me, not just preference or inertia, but that doesn't mean I have to draw a bloody line in the sand over every discussion and turn every decision in my marriage into a political test of wills.  This whole "if you were enough of a feminist to keep your name, why didn't you give the kids your name too" reminds me of people who think they've pulled a real [i]gotcha [/i]when they find out you believe in climate change but also have taken an airplane vacation in the last decade.  [/quote]

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