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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again

Wow this blew up, thanks to those of you who offered support and solid advice. I had to revisit the conversation with my wife since it’s definitely not a topic to be left unresolved. She tried to ask about opening up the marriage to women only (she’s “bi” I guess) but again, I have no interest in sharing with other men OR women. Why is it so hard to understand? Anyway, I made my position clear and she said she would drop it. Of course now I feel like an asshole when I didn’t even do anything wrong and on top of that I will forever be wondering if she’s unhappy or just eventually cheats on me.

I wouldn’t wish this bullshit on my worst enemy. My once secure, happy marriage feels like it’s in jeopardy now. Hopefully I can learn to let it go and she really does drop it for good.[/quote]

So you’re feeling a little insecure. Sounds like she’s been feeling unfulfilled for a long while and will continue to feel that way. It’s almost like you’re even now. [/quote]

So what *should* OP have done?  Consented, even if it would leave him unhappy and unfulfilled?
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No. I’m just pointing out that he’s not the only one unhappy. He’s making it seem like she’s taking away the fulfilling feeling his marriage gave him, but really he hasn’t been giving it to her either. He can try to be more exciting in the bedroom and consider pushing some of his boundaries, or he can dig in and wallow in his insecurity. He shouldn’t punish her for sharing her truth though. [/quote]

exactly how is she being punished?  would you say the same thing if a woman came on here and said her husband only want to open the marriage b/c he's unfulfilled sexually b/c he like women of a different race? or if the husband said he was bi-?  don't think so.[/quote]

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